The Iron Curtain concept was developped in the climax of the cold war. The Communist East european countries, lead by the Soviet Union, litterally and physically separated Europe into two parts. The West: the decadent capitalists (so they said). And the East: the brave new world of communists.
Nothing was coming out the communist states. It was hard to know anything. How they live? What they were up to? What’s their thoughs and trends? Etc… We only knew what they allowed to west to know. And then. They were surprising every ones at the Olympics with the quality of their athletes. Or at Universal Expositions, they were stunning the world with their technological, social, education breaktouts…
In short. The Iron Curtain strategy implies that you develop, grow and improve better than your opponent. But you let know nothing of your improvements to your opponents. So while they sleep and think that every thing is good under the sky, you on your side, are deploying massive efforts to eventually overcome your opponent.
A few years ago one of my good friend had a wife (noticed the verb time here?).
She was one of the worst bitch I have ever seen, She took him for granted. She was complaining all the time. Nothing was too good for her or well made enough for her. My friend could not talk to her. Every time he did so, it was turned against him. She took all opportunity she had, even publicly to morally emasculate my friend. Here is a few examples he told me:
He decided once to take boxing class (nothing to do with her). When he happily announced it to his wife, she looked at him scornfully and said something like “you wouldn't be able to strike a mouse…” Every time my friend talked about a project he had, she turned it down. Every time he proposed an idea or a solution to what ever situation in the house, for the kids, etc… it was never good. And she always reproched him his opinions as stupid, unclear, unrealistic, what ever.
So my friend closed himself. For five years that this situation went on before the break up, he took boxing class, got promotted, proposed stuff that were accepted at work or in his cummunity, went to movies with friends without sharing toughts and opinions about it to his wife, he read books that he ketp for himself. He trained his body. She probably had noticed the change but didn’t say a word about it. He even took salsa class and became good at it. Without his wife knowing or caring. And that is where he met his current girlfriend.
All along he never shared a single thought, opinion, suggerstion with his wife. The conversation was to the effect of mundane things: “pass me the milk please… don’t forget to cut the grass… bla bla bla…” No shouting, less complaints and critique from his wife because she had nothing, no ground, no material on which she could critique.
On his side my friend was evolving, learning new things, meeting new people. He improved his finances and managed to make some savings on his side. His self-esteem increased because he was not slaped on the head anymore at every breath he was taking. And at one point he got enough self-esteem, accumulated enough pride and confidence that he left his wife and started a new life with salsa girl.
See what my friend did is to use the Iron Curtain strategy. In the face of total adversity. Some times it is better not to fight up front. There is no use. You will end up depleting your energy and that’s it. Instead, stay quiet. Mind your own business. Do not offer any thought, any opinions, any help that would be scornfully dashed anyway. Evolve the way you want to evolve without sharing it with the source of your… resistance.
You will come to a point in which you will feel more full, more accomplished. And you will feel higher self-esteem because you will have accomplished all that by your own, without help or support (help and support that would have not come anyway). And you will accomplish all that without the critique, complaints, the derision from your “opponent”.
When you start such a strategy. It must be clear in your head that the relationship you have with the “opponent” is seriously severed. Some time to the point of no return. But for some reasons, you cannot quit, leave, let go or break the relationship all together for now. Therefore you rely on the Iron Curtain strategy for the time it serves your purpose.
Nothing was coming out the communist states. It was hard to know anything. How they live? What they were up to? What’s their thoughs and trends? Etc… We only knew what they allowed to west to know. And then. They were surprising every ones at the Olympics with the quality of their athletes. Or at Universal Expositions, they were stunning the world with their technological, social, education breaktouts…
In short. The Iron Curtain strategy implies that you develop, grow and improve better than your opponent. But you let know nothing of your improvements to your opponents. So while they sleep and think that every thing is good under the sky, you on your side, are deploying massive efforts to eventually overcome your opponent.
A few years ago one of my good friend had a wife (noticed the verb time here?).
She was one of the worst bitch I have ever seen, She took him for granted. She was complaining all the time. Nothing was too good for her or well made enough for her. My friend could not talk to her. Every time he did so, it was turned against him. She took all opportunity she had, even publicly to morally emasculate my friend. Here is a few examples he told me:
He decided once to take boxing class (nothing to do with her). When he happily announced it to his wife, she looked at him scornfully and said something like “you wouldn't be able to strike a mouse…” Every time my friend talked about a project he had, she turned it down. Every time he proposed an idea or a solution to what ever situation in the house, for the kids, etc… it was never good. And she always reproched him his opinions as stupid, unclear, unrealistic, what ever.
So my friend closed himself. For five years that this situation went on before the break up, he took boxing class, got promotted, proposed stuff that were accepted at work or in his cummunity, went to movies with friends without sharing toughts and opinions about it to his wife, he read books that he ketp for himself. He trained his body. She probably had noticed the change but didn’t say a word about it. He even took salsa class and became good at it. Without his wife knowing or caring. And that is where he met his current girlfriend.
All along he never shared a single thought, opinion, suggerstion with his wife. The conversation was to the effect of mundane things: “pass me the milk please… don’t forget to cut the grass… bla bla bla…” No shouting, less complaints and critique from his wife because she had nothing, no ground, no material on which she could critique.
On his side my friend was evolving, learning new things, meeting new people. He improved his finances and managed to make some savings on his side. His self-esteem increased because he was not slaped on the head anymore at every breath he was taking. And at one point he got enough self-esteem, accumulated enough pride and confidence that he left his wife and started a new life with salsa girl.
See what my friend did is to use the Iron Curtain strategy. In the face of total adversity. Some times it is better not to fight up front. There is no use. You will end up depleting your energy and that’s it. Instead, stay quiet. Mind your own business. Do not offer any thought, any opinions, any help that would be scornfully dashed anyway. Evolve the way you want to evolve without sharing it with the source of your… resistance.
You will come to a point in which you will feel more full, more accomplished. And you will feel higher self-esteem because you will have accomplished all that by your own, without help or support (help and support that would have not come anyway). And you will accomplish all that without the critique, complaints, the derision from your “opponent”.
When you start such a strategy. It must be clear in your head that the relationship you have with the “opponent” is seriously severed. Some time to the point of no return. But for some reasons, you cannot quit, leave, let go or break the relationship all together for now. Therefore you rely on the Iron Curtain strategy for the time it serves your purpose.
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