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This week-end I witnessed a very interesting conversation.
I went out with two of my friends for a beer and have a little chat. My friends are considered handsome boys and have no problems in dating beautiful women. But they have both a diametrally opposed strategy about it. One of them (Eric) likes small, chubby and not too fuzzy about make-up women, but very cute ones. The other (Joseph) is attracted by tall, long hair, drop-dead beautiful top-model type women.
So came a discussion between them that I witnessed. I was moving my head right to left like I was watching a tennis game.
Eric said that he prefer the short and more... discreed ones because he feels that they are more true, close to their heart and they tend to be more "giving women". They have more consideration on what their partner feels and wants to make sure that he is happy. They are women that puts value on one's innerself and are not attracted solelly by the physical aspect. "And", he says, "as an added bonus, since they are women that are somewhat less popular with men, you get the benefit that your're girl won't be hit on each other minute thus the temptation to jump the fense is less."
"Non sense!" Said Joseph. "I like drop-dead women because they tend to be more sure of themselve, know more what they want and are not affraid to go get it." He continued "when they get out with a guy, you can be sure that the guy is special because there is so many fish in the ocean that they are very careful in the picking. Thus when they end up with a guy, in the girl's head, its the one and for the long term." And he concluded "and the added bonus is that they are hit on so much that they get immuned against it. So I know that when my girl has a girls night out, she's there for the fun, the dance and that's all."
Eric: "Wait a minute. Are you implying that when the chubby kind women goes out, she is more prone to be unfaitful?"
Joseph: "No. What I am saying is that the chubby does not get hit on as much as the model. Therefore when she gets hit on, it affects her much more than the model and thus creates a more dangerous situation for you."
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And the conversation went on... on sports, women again, politics, women, philosophy and then of course... women.
But what I got from my friends conversation is a very interesting "insssurance policy against cheating" strategy in dating . Lets recap. If you date a more natural woman, you are less likely to be cheated on because since she gets less offers, the risk is less. The downside to this (according to my friends) is that this strategy can backfire if the woman actually gets hit on. Since it is more "rare" (once again according to my friends) for her, the temptation to give in will be higher.
On the other side if you date models, they get immuned against flirts. Therefore you get more chances that she will be fateful if you're THE one for her. The downside of this is that if you are not THE one for her, or if she wants to get even with you for some reason, or she wants to hurt you in some ways, then she just have to go out and roll her hips a little, and you're history in no time.
Which strategy is best? Honestly in this case I don't know. Both have their pros an cons.
But what is interesting is that it gives an interesting hint on the hidden computation part of our brain when it comes to relationships. Because my friends had this conversation very genuinelly without back thoughts. They were not aware that what they were verbalizing, is their internal premisses of odds calculations in a relationship. Odds of being cheated on or not... And in some ways, it affects their choices of potential dates.
Of course one has to realize that this is an over simplification of relationships and women characters. One must not take this to the letter and apply it as is.
But this is nevertheless interesting... for a Strategist.
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