Have you ever found that, in a relationship, sometimes, there is always one partner that does most of the effort for the relation compared to the other?
We've all seen that. Perhaps you lived it. And if you feel that you are actually living it right now, here's a trick: The Mirror Strategy. But be warned. This could be the start of a spiral down to the end of you relationship! Use this with caution.
The Mirror strategy consist of mirroring your most significant other's affection patern. If he/she gives you affection, you give some back. If he/she don't, you don't. Its as simple as that.
There is two ways on how your significant other might respond to that. First he/she can realize that you're getting farther and colder, and he/she might want to win you back by giving more love, attention and affection. If it is so. Then you made your point. Resume with your relationship, you know it's worth it.
The second response is a significant other that mirror you back. If it is so, you have two ways to deal with it. First you end the "cold war" and resume to your relationship the way it was. Willing to accecpt the consequences of this relationship. Second, you continue the mirror strategy in giving even less attention and affection.
This last path is dangerous. You can end up in a spiral down of less and lesser attention and affection from your significant other and you to him/her. At the extreme, this can spiral down to the end of the relationship. If it does, would you have provoqued the end of the relationship? You might. But the true question is, if the significant other doesn't respond to less and less care and affection, is this relationship worth it?
That's for you to find your own answer.
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